At some point while venturing through our individual journeys, we realize that others really can’t give us everything we think we want. When this realization dawns on us, the temptation arises to abandon that person (or situation) in search of something or someone different. The problem begins because we think that another’s inability to fulfill our wants means that they are being selfish or holding back.
The reality is actually this: We need to look at ourselves and realize that none of us can give what we don’t have. Until we can take care of our own needs in a way that nurtures our own hearts, it’s very difficult and stressful to share and care for others. This applies to each of us from birth to death. To visualize the problem of being emotionally overwhelmed, imagine you asked a starving homeless person to share their food…and then made them feel guilty for not wanting to give up what may be their only meal.
We must each focus on giving ourselves enough of whatever it is that we need (healthy food for energy; sleep for recuperation; exercise for stress relief; quiet for thinking; time with friends and laughter; etc.) Through this self-care, we enhance our ability to share more freely while becoming better able to accept the limits of what others can give. At enough, we share.
PS: No…I don’t play the piano!
This is Silver Disobedience® philosophy.
I am Dian Griesel, Ph.D., a perception analyst & hypnotherapist dedicated to transforming lives by helping my clients understand and reframe their conscious and unconscious beliefs for greater personal, professional & business success. Let’s talk. Call or Text 212.825.3210
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2 responses to “At “Enough” We Share”
I think my comment vanished. Exercise , and doing my share of domestic duties, is what I believe will help me remain independent, and delay permanent residency in a nursing home. Involvement with the household chores, gives me perspective and insight, into what the other person is going through. A quote helps to illustrate this, “he who tastes knows.”
I see your comment now! Thanks for tuning in and sharing your thought, Geroy. Keep moving!