While imagination is a wonderful thing, it can also be the root cause of much of the stress in our lives. As we continually deal with more challenging life experiences, our imagination can derail us. For instance, imagining worst-case scenarios in a job interview or a relationship conflict can lead to unnecessary stress.
If we find ourselves worrying and experiencing stress about what might happen, our imaginations have gotten the better of us. We need to stop and stick to the facts.
For example, imagine someone is perpetually late or owes us money and hasn’t paid us on time. Our imaginations say: “He thinks I’m stupid. She’s selfish. They don’t respect me. I must be a weak pushover if they treat me like this.” Facts say: “They’re late.” Or, “The payment is late; I wonder why?” When defensiveness starts to dominate, it’s time to ask questions and seek answers, which can empower you and reduce feelings of anxiety.
Sticking to the facts is being objective vs. emotional, which is based on subjective thinking or feelings based. Objective thinking identifies observable facts and is not influenced by personal feelings or interpretations. Doing your best to assess any situation — your health, relationships, work, transactions, negotiations, the economy, or whatever — in a factual way without confusing it with emotional or imaginary ideas — is a big stress reliever.
When we start adding emotions to any situation, our imaginations are drawing past references.
Today is a different day. Stick to the facts of the moment, ask questions, and do whatever you can to make life unfold as best you can. This focus on the present can help you feel more in control and less stressed. Give it a try…Starting now!
PS: This is my best Inspector Clouseau look. (Photo by Susan Bowlus)
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