Have you ever wondered if it’s time to step out of the shadow of your comfort zone? Many of us have felt this way at some point in our lives.
So much of daily life is routine-oriented. These “patterns” include all that’s involved in raising children, working, caring for parents, and other responsibilities that can set us in pattern mode. Psychologists believe that patterns tend to minimize stress. Now, I don’t think anyone is claiming that kids or work are stress-free, but knowing there’s a routine to the day seems to be perceived by some as less stressful. Perhaps this is because we think we know what is happening from one day to the next.
When people begin contemplating any change — work, moving, etc. — the change in routine can be paralyzing. Even if we don’t like a particular pattern, we know it, know what to expect to some degree, and are used to it. Therefore, we worry and resist change because we can become afraid as we contemplate what might happen if things change.
Let’s break down this delusional thinking.
Every day we are alive, the risk is omnipresent that life as we know it will change in moments. Illness, accidents, loss of work, divorce, death, empty nests, retirement, starting a new career, marriages, new kids, blended families — the list goes on and on. The goal is to gently push the boundaries of our comfort zones by doing things a bit differently. Getting more comfortable with accepting the inevitable changes of daily living makes it easier to deal with new and unanticipated changes. We can learn to brainstorm new ideas and solutions, channel our creativity, and arrive at new heights of satisfaction. How? Try choosing to do something different every day.
Whether it’s a big or little change is irrelevant: Saying hi to someone we pass regularly but usually don’t acknowledge, taking a class, or going for a walk in a new direction. The differences we add to our daily routines recalibrate our thinking.
“New” can be difficult, uncomfortable, challenging, just plain new, different, and maybe even fun.
Remember this when you think about stepping out of your comfort zone – whether by choice or not. And don’t be surprised if the benefits of growth, improvement, and new experiences await.
