Welcome! This is post numero uno on my personal blog (although I don’t know what order you might be reading this in…) I offer no disclaimers other than that.
I’ll begin with fear. It’s as good a place as any to start. I once read: “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” I disagree with the “everything.” It needs an “almost” in front of it. Almost everything we want is on the other side of fear.
Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of falling. Fear of crashing. Fear of mortality. Fear of immortality. Fear of being on stage. Fear of never being recognized. Fear of what our parents would say/think. Fear of what our children will say/think. Fear of caring. Fear of not caring enough. The list is endless.
Am I really that afraid? Yes, I am. No, I am not.
Fear is a dichotomy of the self. Opposing ideas within us much like war and peace. I feel afraid, yet I know how great it feels to be on the other side of that fear. Mostly.
I had a plane crash on October 10th, 1981. After not flying for a year, understandably with fear of flying, on October 10th, 1982 I went flying again. Guess what? Another crash landing! My point? You can face your fears, go through them, but life doesn’t come with guarantees. I still crashed. In fact, I crashed again…and again. Hopefully not again, again.
Crashing isn’t so bad, assuming you still get to live. I learned a lot from it. Namely, that I can survive adversity. Also that no matter what is aggravating me, no matter what I’m afraid of, no matter what fear I’m experiencing? No guarantees…but I’ll probably live through it.
Life actually prefers living. All life forms strive for health…and existence. Think about the crap most of us put in our bodies. If we put the equivalent of soda in an auto for gas –that would be the end of that engine. But bodies? They tolerate a lot of abuse. Stop the abuse and health will do its best to improve your overall being.
Same goes for our minds. Once we challenge our fear, it begins to lose its power. We realize we haven’t died. We’re still alive. Stronger.