Staying angry is not healthy. It won’t help you or anyone around you live longer. Anger raises cortisol, adrenaline, epinephrine and insulin –which hardens arteries and hurts our cardiovascular & heart health. Anger wrinkles our faces. When I’m not feeling angry–or the minute I realize I am–I try to imagine the distorted […]
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Smashing Age Stereotypes
There are countless stereotypes as to what defines an “old” person. These are accompanied by myths as to what “older” looks like and “how old people act.” However, as with all stereotypes — most of them are simply not true. Aging does not mean that Alzheimers and forgetfulness are inevitable. It doesn’t mean we’re all […]
The Worst Has Already Happened
No matter what is going on in our lives, it’s quite possible that the worst has already happened. Here’s where you say: “You don’t know me! How can you say that?! What’s the worst thing that has already happened in my life?” The worst thing that can happen to any of us is this: Believing […]
“Poring” Over Beauty
I remember watching my mother while she would put on her makeup and set her hair. Everyday, no matter what she had been doing to care for her five children, our home and yard, at 5pm like clockwork, she would get dolled up for our father’s arrival back home after work. As she was preparing […]
Scoring One Hundred Percent
We all have days when we feel like we just want to quit. On particularly rough days when I feel that I’ve reached the end of my capacity to give, love, care, think, act, change, try, hear, or do whatever else is demanding more more more…I find it’s helpful to remind myself that my track […]
Taking Calculated Risks
I’m a big believer in taking healthy calculated risks and pushing oneself into uncharted territory. My goal is to give up both my fears of failure and my fears of success: They are equally powerful. Yet, the more I accept that there are no guarantees of failure or success, the easier the idea of making […]
On The Lookout
It’s always a good idea to stay on the lookout for ways to increase the possibilities in your life. Possibility is anything that provides you with a chance to change your circumstances for the better. Unless your crystal ball is working better than mine, we can never predict the ways that life will present new […]
Some Kind of Wonderful
As we age, we often tell each other, “You’re looking good….” with the subtext being… “for your age.” I propose we all start changing the phrase to: “You’re looking wonderful.” After all, “wonderful” is an adjective describing something that arouses “wonder.” Don’t other people regularly arouse wonder in you? I wonder what people are thinking? […]
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Stop Aging? I don’t think so. Wrong message. In fact, I’m here to boldly declare that this is not what I’m trying to do at all. Slow the biological impact of aging factors, yes. Stay as healthy as possible, yes. Stay metabolically and mentally strong, absolutely. Stop all the wisdom that accrues from daily experiences […]
Worrying About the Future
Do you ever find yourself worrying about what the future holds? At any age, worrying about tomorrow steals the joy from today. Whenever I find myself starting to worry I remind myself of two things: 1) When I am thinking, I’m not fully in the present and therefore 2) Whatever I am worrying about, is […]