A few months ago, an up and coming photographer Richard Kissi reached out to me. He wanted to add “diversity” to his portfolio. I asked him exactly what he meant by that, because prior to our conversation, I never used the word “diverse” to describe me. He said he’d researched me and wanted to feature […]
aging
It’s No Wonder…
It’s not surprising that as a culture we deny that everyday we are alive, we’re all getting older. Pick up a thesaurus and you’ll see that some of the synonyms for old are: ancient, decrepit, tired, fossil, broken down, depilated, enfeebled, exhausted, antiquated, absolute, archaic and geriatric. These words don’t describe how I feel nor […]
The Worst Has Already Happened
No matter what is going on in our lives, it’s quite possible that the worst has already happened. Here’s where you say: “You don’t know me! How can you say that?! What’s the worst thing that has already happened in my life?” The worst thing that can happen to any of us is this: Believing […]
Not Our First Rodeo
Most things are possible if you’ve got enough nerve to buck up and throw yourself fully into the challenge. With age, much of our grit is based on a foundation of experience. Our self-assurance for many of our decisions is honed from our prior experiences both positive and negative. Our confidence reflects a mature temperament […]
Owning Our Eccentricity
I’ve always gravitated towards eccentric people. A dictionary search defines eccentricity as unconventional and slightly strange behavior. Strange is defined as unsettling and hard to understand. Personally — I define eccentricity as any and every form of self-expression from bowties and suites to tattoos and mohawks because it all depends on individual persuasion. Depending upon […]
Scoring One Hundred Percent
We all have days when we feel like we just want to quit. On particularly rough days when I feel that I’ve reached the end of my capacity to give, love, care, think, act, change, try, hear, or do whatever else is demanding more more more…I find it’s helpful to remind myself that my track […]
Some Kind of Wonderful
As we age, we often tell each other, “You’re looking good….” with the subtext being… “for your age.” I propose we all start changing the phrase to: “You’re looking wonderful.” After all, “wonderful” is an adjective describing something that arouses “wonder.” Don’t other people regularly arouse wonder in you? I wonder what people are thinking? […]
Space Still Available
Stop Aging? I don’t think so. Wrong message. In fact, I’m here to boldly declare that this is not what I’m trying to do at all. Slow the biological impact of aging factors, yes. Stay as healthy as possible, yes. Stay metabolically and mentally strong, absolutely. Stop all the wisdom that accrues from daily experiences […]
If You Can’t Say Anything Nice…
Silver Disobedience™ attitude says: “If you have an opinion about my life, please raise your hand. Now, put that hand over your mouth and be sure to taste your words before you spit them out because if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.” PS: Word of mouth is very powerful. It […]
You Get What You Need
“You Can’t Always Get What You Want” by The Rolling Stones is often playing in my head. I think there’s a lot of truth is that title, but I particularly like the subsequent line that holds a bit more insight about a life philosophy: “You get what you need.” Being comfortable with ageing is closely […]