Nobody can give us inner peace. It would be nice if we could buy it by going on a retreat or vacation, but this is not a reality. While we might enjoy a peaceful vacation with no arguments in a beautiful peaceful setting— this doesn’t mean that we experienced peace in our mind. It’s hard […]
ageing
F.I.D.O.
Once in awhile I see a bumper sticker that really captures my attention with its brief message simplicity. Sometimes, I have to be real careful to not hit the car in front of me when I’m trying to read those pithy little bits of wisdom. One of my favorites said, “F.I.D.O” and in very tiny […]
Smashing Age Stereotypes
There are countless stereotypes as to what defines an “old” person. These are accompanied by myths as to what “older” looks like and “how old people act.” However, as with all stereotypes — most of them are simply not true. Aging does not mean that Alzheimers and forgetfulness are inevitable. It doesn’t mean we’re all […]
Turning Points
Turning points are those moments when our world seems to turn upside down —whether we like it or not. Crisis often accompanies our turning points, and difficult or important decisions must be made. Suddenly, we are challenged to adapt, reach, grow…and maybe even rebirth ourselves into what feels like a new life. Both events and […]
Not Our First Rodeo
Most things are possible if you’ve got enough nerve to buck up and throw yourself fully into the challenge. With age, much of our grit is based on a foundation of experience. Our self-assurance for many of our decisions is honed from our prior experiences both positive and negative. Our confidence reflects a mature temperament […]
Owning Our Eccentricity
I’ve always gravitated towards eccentric people. A dictionary search defines eccentricity as unconventional and slightly strange behavior. Strange is defined as unsettling and hard to understand. Personally — I define eccentricity as any and every form of self-expression from bowties and suites to tattoos and mohawks because it all depends on individual persuasion. Depending upon […]
“Poring” Over Beauty
I remember watching my mother while she would put on her makeup and set her hair. Everyday, no matter what she had been doing to care for her five children, our home and yard, at 5pm like clockwork, she would get dolled up for our father’s arrival back home after work. As she was preparing […]
Scoring One Hundred Percent
We all have days when we feel like we just want to quit. On particularly rough days when I feel that I’ve reached the end of my capacity to give, love, care, think, act, change, try, hear, or do whatever else is demanding more more more…I find it’s helpful to remind myself that my track […]
Records: Cheaper than a Psychiatrist
A couple of years ago my daughter who entered her teen years listening to music on an iPhone asked for a record player. She didn’t think I knew what it was, and explained that we’d have to buy vinyls to go with it. For many of us vinyl still smells better than a download. Growing […]
Taking Calculated Risks
I’m a big believer in taking healthy calculated risks and pushing oneself into uncharted territory. My goal is to give up both my fears of failure and my fears of success: They are equally powerful. Yet, the more I accept that there are no guarantees of failure or success, the easier the idea of making […]