Most of us really want to get along with others. It is human nature to prefer peaceful, constructive conversation. The relief and satisfaction that come from successful communication are powerful motivators, offering hope and a sense of achievement. Communication breakdowns, on the other hand, can be frustrating and painful, leaving one, both, or all parties angry, confused, and hurt.
We’ve been trying to communicate our messages since the day we were born. So why does it sometimes still feel so difficult? Communication challenges are a shared experience, a common thread that connects us all, whether partners, kids, work, or anybody else. They are inevitable and as unique as each of us, but this diversity does not mean they must be divisive.
Here’s how to improve communication breakthroughs:
1) Understanding ourselves is key. We really need to know who we are in our hearts, which is more than some mental image of who we are. Hearts are not rigid, right or firm. Conversely, hearts aren’t a pushover or too flexible, either. This self-awareness empowers us and puts us in control of our communication.
2) Our pulsating hearts are knowing and loving. Our hearts must become the guiding force of our thoughts. This means we must risk vulnerability because…
3) We must be willing to allow “us” as a possibility—to coexist. This means we must be open to adjusting, reversing, switching, shifting, transitioning, about-face, changing, or advancing our thinking to be open to “us” thinking, which comes from the heart.
While in our heads, we can script out all that we need to say to get our point across, if we’re not willing to allow others to do the same—and then are not willing to risk “us” thinking—the problem remains, and the relationship falters.
Exchange, liaison, and rapport can only happen when we choose to embrace the possibilities of unity rather than antagonism and division. Communication cannot move forward with mental rigidity. This does not mean we must always concede. Rather, it means that we must be willing to be flexible rather than inflexible—much like a beating heart.
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